5…David —Confessions of a King — No More Tears — 1 Samuel 23-30…Handout

Ever get down or depressed? Everyone does, it is one of the chief _______ hazards of the Christian life. The reason is Christians are the ______ people who know the difference between the way the world is, and the way it ought to be. When we get down and depressed we often cry out as in Psalm 22:1~My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from _______ me…(NIV) No More Tears: Research,________

1) Research the Cause (1 Samuel 23-26) Research is a ___________ investigation. 2 Timothy 2:15~Study to shew thyself approved unto God…(KJV) On the journey through life and faith, we can feel as though we are on a _______ coaster ride. David’s life reveals___causes for his depression. Cause #1—Difficult________. 1 Samuel 23 shares how David goes to help the people of ______

What do we do when we learn people are against us? 1 Samuel 23:9~When David learned that Saul was _____ against him, he said to Abiathar the priest, “Bring the ephod.” (ESV) David seeks the Lord to understand how to proceed. We too must learn to seek the Lord when we need direction for proceeding with difficult people, lest we get down and fall into depression. Later David will again be betrayed by the _______. These two betrayals, Keilah and the Zephites set the stage for David’s depression. While hiding in a cave David has an opportunity to take Saul’s life. How do we respond to a situation where we can eliminate an adversary?   

David cuts Sauls garment in a moment of opportunity and then hears the Lord. As he shows Saul the cut cloth he _____ with his face to the earth in reverence. His repentance allows the Lord to work. 1 Samuel 24:16~As soon as David had finished speaking these words to Saul, Saul said, “Is this your voice, my son David?” And Saul lifted up his voice and _______. (ESV)
Cause #2—________ of a mentor or loved one. The death of this great man of God (Samuel) and ally of David is one of the most traumatic events in David’s life. Know that our strength is in the Lord, and He will never leave you or forsake you.
Cause #3—_______ Like all of us, David feels that he deserves respect. The question is how do we respond when people don’t show us what we feel we deserve? Though we may have the power to behave badly, God expects more from us. Allowing God to work David is met by Abigail. A wise woman who pays him great respect. Shortly after her gracious gift, David will _____ her. It creates a problem in David’s life. For God’s standard has always been ___________, not polygamy.

2) Reflect on the ____________(1 Samuel 27-29) David has a problem that won’t go away. Depressed, David begins to _______ God’s promises and thinks to himself that God will allow Saul to kill him. David again heads to Gath where king Achish gives him _______. A city in southern Canaan David uses for ____ months. (27:1-7). From Ziklag David attempts to hide, lying and________ everyone, which deepens his depression. When we are depressed, it is very _______ to look for relief in all the wrong places. David feels the weight of a spiritual crop. Hosea 8:7~They sow the wind and reap the whirlwind…(NIV) Take-A-Step: _______________________________________________


When is the last time you had a marriage tune-up? Sometimes we need to be reminded that our marriage is not about us getting what we want but rather a healthy discussion on what we both need. Jesus reminds us in Matthew 19:6~So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate (χωρίζω chōrizō). (ESV) Created by God as a man and a woman to complement each other physically, emotionally, and spiritually. God is truly amazing, therefore, every married couple that experiences fulfillment, companionship, encouragement, physical fulfillment, and the blessing of children and grandchildren are experiencing God’s blessing. Since God created marriage, Jesus declares to let there be no separations. Take your past, put it under the blood, and stay in your marriage. The word (χωρίζω chōrizō), separate in this context refers to divorce. Grasp that marriage is the work of God and divorce is the work of fallen humans.

So then, what causes marriages to breakdown? Spiritual Sclerosis (19:7-9). If we go to a cardiologist, as many do, you may hear that you have atherosclerosis. It’s where our arteries get hardened due to plaque build-up. Known as Heart disease, the leading cause of death for men, women, and people of most racial and ethnic groups here in the United States. One person dies every 37 seconds in the U.S. from cardiovascular disease. About 647,000 Americans die from heart disease each year, that’s 1 in every 4 deaths. Heart disease costs the U.S. over $219 billion each year. This number includes the cost of health care services, medicines, and lost productivity due to death.

Before we dive-in to the spiritual side of a hard heart, let’s pause and ask how are our new year’s resolutions working? Many of us said we were going to live better, eat better and exercise more. Are you keeping up with the lifestyle changes that were brought about by 21-Days? Why not double down on your efforts and make life better by doing the things you know are needed. Today, ask the Lord to help remind you in those moments of weakness and to give you His strength to make the necessary changes that you have already begun. You can do this, with God’s help!


Did you know, marriage is a permanent spiritual union? (Matthew 19:3-6) If you are in a marriage right now, God wants it to last. I may not understand how you came to be married, but if you are, God wants this marriage, to last. Uh-oh, here come the Pharisees. Many of you have met some of them, and they now come to trap Jesus. Matthew 19:3~And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?” (ESV) 

Remember the Pharisees knew John the Baptist was imprisoned and summarily slaughtered because of his preaching about marriage and divorce. Hoping to ensnare Messiah they awaited His response. In the first century, like in most others, divorce is a hotly debated issue. However, understand that the only opinion which matters is our Lord’s. Rebutting question for question, in Matthew 19:4 ~He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, (ESV) I am going to try this in my next counseling appointment. When you come to me and ask me a question, I am going to look at you and say, Have you not read the Bible? Good chat, I like where your head is at, see you next week. 

Jesus quotes from Genesis 5:2~He created them male and female and blessed them. And he named them “Mankind” when they were created. (NIV) Then our Lord sets about unpacking God’s ideal marriage, which is male and female not male and male or female and female. Genesis 2:24~That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united (דָּבַק dabaq) to his wife, and they become one flesh. (NIV) The word (דָּבַק dabaq) means to cleve, to hold fast, not stick, to abide. Yeah, abide, like when Jesus said in John 15:4~Abide in me and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit by itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you abide in me. (ESV) Become One, that is what Christ Jesus said about marriage. The word (דָּבַק dabaq) refers to permanent bonding. No men, I didn’t say bondage, I said bonding. Become one in God’s eyes. 

Why not take time today to look for a special gift for the day of romance fast approaching (February 14, 2020). Instead of making the myopic trip for just chocolate, why not spend the extra time choosing something that is truly special. Then begin by using words of affirmation and small gestures over the next two weeks to strengthen your relationship. Then you won’t be waiting for the last minute to say, I love and appreciate you.